Emilene Frigato

Although being affected by social, economical and cultural aspects; the basis for healthy self-esteem is fostered in early childhood. It is widely known that constant criticism can damage a satisfactory sense of self-worth. However, many ignore the fact that excessive praise; especially when directed towards transitory traits, such as beauty and intelligence, can also be harmful to the developing self-image. A girl who is constantly admired and praised for her physical appearance might end up believing that her value lies on her looks and will probably face difficulties when confronted with aging. Nevertheless, even being able to correspond to social expectations, her beauty will not bring her any sense of security or self-love.   Likewise, a boy who is highly valued for his intelligence might feel threatened when unable to fulfill the expectations and will probably have anxiety towards his performance at school. He might spend his adult life trying to impress the others, sh...

In a certain tribe in Africa , the women go to the Forest to pray when one of them is pregnant. In their belief, each soul has its own vibration. They meditate until they can listen to this vibration and sing the child’s song. Then, they go to the tribe, and teach them all to sing it. When the child is born, they get together and sing the child his song. This ritual is repeated in every important moment of this person’s life, such as when becoming an adult, at the day of his marriage and on the occasion of his death. If for any reason this person commits a crime, he is brought to the core of the village, they gather around in a circle and once more sing his song, in order to remind him of most profound identity. This people believe that is not through punishment, but with love, that an anti-social behavior should be approached to. When someone is capable of feeling how valuable he is, when he can appreciate his essence, then there is no need to hurt himself or anyone ...